5 Tips for Mom's To Lower Stress
Being a new mom is tough, and it’s one of the most important jobs that someone can have. With everything our kids have access too, and everything they can get involved in, being vigilant and wary is a 24/7 job.
Naturally, that comes with a lot of stress and anxiety. You might worry about how you’re caring for your baby, how they’re going to grow up, or what kind of parent you’re going to be. And this worry can take a huge toll on your everyday life.
Managing this stress is part of being a parent. And luckily there are a lot of tips and tricks you can use to help you get through even the toughest periods.
1- Use Your Support System
It’s easy for new moms, especially single mothers, to be overwhelmed by everything that goes into raising a child when the baby first comes home. This is a time to use your support system as much as possible. Even things as simple as having your own mother watch the baby for an hour so you can get a shower can really make a huge difference to your headspace.
2 - Sleep when you Can
Lack of sleep is a huge issue for new parents. Trying to reliably predict when a newborn is going to be tired enough to sleep is close to impossible. But that doesn’t mean you should spend all of your time awake. Ask your spouse or friend to watch them baby for an hour or two, and catch a small snooze when you can. There’s no shame in asking for help, after all.
3 - Go For a Drive
This is something that can work until your child is six, seven, or even eight years old. Not only is going for a 10-20 minute drive in the silence and comfort of your car a great way to clear your own head (focusing on a task tends to focus the mind), but it usually puts your child to sleep as well! The continuous rumbling noise and unchanging interior tend to relax a child’s senses while the soft rocking motion lulls them to sleep.
4 - Take Time to Socialize
It can be easy to convince yourself that being a parent is your full-time job. And to an extent, that’s true. Yet for the sake of your own health and your child’s well-being, it’s important to take time to socialize. Interacting with other adults is necessary to keep us. Whether you’re spending time with other parents or taking advantage of a babysitter, it’s important to keep adults in your life. Finding a night or two every couple weeks can make a huge difference to your state of mind
5-Take Time For Yourself
Taking time for yourself is the most important stress reliever of all. Self-care is vital in understanding that you are a separate person from your kid, even if it doesn’t feel that way all the time. This can be easier once your kid settles into a more normal sleeping schedule. Take advantage of that time to read a book, have a nice cup of tea, or spend some time with your significant other. It can seem a bit counter-intuitive, but you need to take care of yourself before you can properly take care of someone else.
These tips mostly focus on taking care of yourself, and for good reason. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed as a new parent, and there’s a feedback loop that intensifies that anxiety. When you’re anxious, it’s harder to assess problems, react calmly, and find solutions. Take a step back, breathe, and remember to look after yourself with the same care you’re using to look after your child. They’ll thank you for it.
Written by: Lexi Carr is a freelance writer with a passion for helping others. When she's not spending time with her family, she's playing with her Australian blue heeler.